Hello,
Today, I'm going to do something a little different. I am going to open the forum up to all my wonderful readers out there.
There is nothing more consuming and interesting to me then the mystery of Love, Sex and Relationships. I was thinking that if this is the case for me, than it must be the same for most of you out there. So, I am going to stop talking and listen.
I am offering my advice and answers to your most wanted "to know" questions whether you need advice or an answer, or if you just want to talk, write in the comments and I will reply.
What do you want to know about Love, Sex and Relationships?
I am looking forward to your challenging questions.
Sincerely XOXO,
Jessie J.
Thursday, August 23, 2012
Tuesday, July 31, 2012
5 Fascinating Paternity Test Facts - Guys You'll Want To Read This One!
Hello all my fabulous readers,
I was just reading this intriguing archived article of Cosmopolitan Magazine. It was called 5 Fascinating Paternity Test Facts. This one is just for you guys.
Basically, the article talks about how paternity cases are on the rise due to several factors. One being the rate of children that are born to unwed mothers. Caroline Caskey, CEO of Identigene and Randy M. Kessler, Family-Law Attorney; present 5 fascinating DNA testing facts:
Fact 1.) "If the potential father skips town, his DNA can still be tested. Genetic material culled from chewed gum, cigarette butts, razors, or even a licked envelope can last 30 years and still be in good enough condition to determine paternity."
Fact 2.) "Dead men sometimes take one. If a court deems it necessary to resolve a fatherhood dispute, a corpse will be dug up for tissue samples, which are then tested and compared to a child's DNA in a similar way to how a live guy's tissue is tested."
Fact 3.) "If a woman has slept with identical twins, a paternity test would prove inconclusive because the men have the exact same DNA."
Fact 4.) "In about 35% of paternity cases, the presumed dad turns out to not be the biological one."
Fact 5.) "Even if a test proves a man isn't a child's biological father and the real dad is located, the non-father may still have to pay child support. If a judge thinks it's in a child's best interest, he'll order the wrongly accused father to support the kid-and the real father doesn't have to contribute in any way."
Wow! it is amazing what science can do!
Jessie J
Some content courtesy of Cosmopolitan Magazine; Issue April 2006
I was just reading this intriguing archived article of Cosmopolitan Magazine. It was called 5 Fascinating Paternity Test Facts. This one is just for you guys.
Basically, the article talks about how paternity cases are on the rise due to several factors. One being the rate of children that are born to unwed mothers. Caroline Caskey, CEO of Identigene and Randy M. Kessler, Family-Law Attorney; present 5 fascinating DNA testing facts:
Fact 1.) "If the potential father skips town, his DNA can still be tested. Genetic material culled from chewed gum, cigarette butts, razors, or even a licked envelope can last 30 years and still be in good enough condition to determine paternity."
Fact 2.) "Dead men sometimes take one. If a court deems it necessary to resolve a fatherhood dispute, a corpse will be dug up for tissue samples, which are then tested and compared to a child's DNA in a similar way to how a live guy's tissue is tested."
Fact 3.) "If a woman has slept with identical twins, a paternity test would prove inconclusive because the men have the exact same DNA."
Fact 4.) "In about 35% of paternity cases, the presumed dad turns out to not be the biological one."
Fact 5.) "Even if a test proves a man isn't a child's biological father and the real dad is located, the non-father may still have to pay child support. If a judge thinks it's in a child's best interest, he'll order the wrongly accused father to support the kid-and the real father doesn't have to contribute in any way."
Wow! it is amazing what science can do!
Jessie J
Some content courtesy of Cosmopolitan Magazine; Issue April 2006
Monday, July 30, 2012
Why Do Women Go After the Same Men Over and Over Again, Even When They Always Get Hurt?
Hello all my wonderful readers,
Wow! Do I have a perplexing question for you today...Why Do Women Go After the Same Men Over and Over Again, Even When They Always Get Hurt?
Well that is a very complex question and I could write for days on the subject, so let me see if I can just give you a simplified answer.
Women who constantly get hurt by the men they're involved with are usually insecure and seeking something in themselves that they might not even be aware of. You see, we grow up with certain insecurities and self-esteem issues and when we are close with somebody we tend to pick men subconsciously who feed these insecurities because this is all we know. We are in familiar territory, so even though it feels bad, it also feels comfortable to us.
Relationships are so hard and they will never be perfect, but they should make you feel good about yourself. It becomes a problem when the person you're with makes you feel worse about yourself. Can you change him? Only if he wants to change for you and the relationship. Most likely though, this type of man is facing his own insecurities so he doesn't know how to fix his own problems, how can he fix yours? If nothing gets better, getting out of the relationship early can save you a lot of damage to your self-esteem. By ending it, you are saying that you are worth more. You are saying that you deserve respect and better treatment, and that will be the confidence boost that you need.
It is so hard to break a cycle that you have been acclimated to throughout your life, but it will get better over time if you work on it. Take this time to look into yourself first and figure out what you are seeking and make a list of things that are important to you in a relationship. Your new attitude will attract the right kinds of men that will be healthy for you.
Wow! Do I have a perplexing question for you today...Why Do Women Go After the Same Men Over and Over Again, Even When They Always Get Hurt?
Well that is a very complex question and I could write for days on the subject, so let me see if I can just give you a simplified answer.
Women who constantly get hurt by the men they're involved with are usually insecure and seeking something in themselves that they might not even be aware of. You see, we grow up with certain insecurities and self-esteem issues and when we are close with somebody we tend to pick men subconsciously who feed these insecurities because this is all we know. We are in familiar territory, so even though it feels bad, it also feels comfortable to us.
Relationships are so hard and they will never be perfect, but they should make you feel good about yourself. It becomes a problem when the person you're with makes you feel worse about yourself. Can you change him? Only if he wants to change for you and the relationship. Most likely though, this type of man is facing his own insecurities so he doesn't know how to fix his own problems, how can he fix yours? If nothing gets better, getting out of the relationship early can save you a lot of damage to your self-esteem. By ending it, you are saying that you are worth more. You are saying that you deserve respect and better treatment, and that will be the confidence boost that you need.
It is so hard to break a cycle that you have been acclimated to throughout your life, but it will get better over time if you work on it. Take this time to look into yourself first and figure out what you are seeking and make a list of things that are important to you in a relationship. Your new attitude will attract the right kinds of men that will be healthy for you.
Why Can't Men Just Say They're Sorry?
Hello all my wonderful readers,
I apologize for not posting anything for a while, so to make it up to you I have two posts for you today.
The burning question is...Why Can't Men Just Say They're Sorry?
This may seem like a complex question with a complex answer, but the truth is that the answer is simple. The reason why men don't change this, is the hard part.
The psychological reason they can't say those two very important words (I'm Sorry) is because they feel that it makes them weak or "less than a man". Even if it is just the two of you, they feel that saying sorry, to anyone, is a form of public humiliation and a move that makes them more vulnerable to criticism, according to Warren Farrell in Cosmopolitan Magazine.
Men are action-oriented they prefer to show you how they feel than tell you. That's why when they do something wrong, they would rather prove to you that they are remorseful by "showing" you with actions that they will not do it again. They look on the surface and like to see results. In turn, they expect the same from you when you've done something wrong. Women are quick to say sorry, but men don't see a point to those words. They want to see action.
What should you do if you are craving his recognition that he hurt your feelings? Well, from my experience with my husband, I know not to push the issue and try not to put the words "I'm sorry" in his mouth. Every time I have done this, it backfires on me because he says it but doesn't mean it. It is so much more important to me when he means it. So, don't wait for the S word from him. Tell him that you're hurt and why and then keep your eyes open for signs / actions of remorse.
Thank you.
Jessie J.
Some content is courtesy of Cosmopolitan Magazine
I apologize for not posting anything for a while, so to make it up to you I have two posts for you today.
The burning question is...Why Can't Men Just Say They're Sorry?
This may seem like a complex question with a complex answer, but the truth is that the answer is simple. The reason why men don't change this, is the hard part.
The psychological reason they can't say those two very important words (I'm Sorry) is because they feel that it makes them weak or "less than a man". Even if it is just the two of you, they feel that saying sorry, to anyone, is a form of public humiliation and a move that makes them more vulnerable to criticism, according to Warren Farrell in Cosmopolitan Magazine.
Men are action-oriented they prefer to show you how they feel than tell you. That's why when they do something wrong, they would rather prove to you that they are remorseful by "showing" you with actions that they will not do it again. They look on the surface and like to see results. In turn, they expect the same from you when you've done something wrong. Women are quick to say sorry, but men don't see a point to those words. They want to see action.
What should you do if you are craving his recognition that he hurt your feelings? Well, from my experience with my husband, I know not to push the issue and try not to put the words "I'm sorry" in his mouth. Every time I have done this, it backfires on me because he says it but doesn't mean it. It is so much more important to me when he means it. So, don't wait for the S word from him. Tell him that you're hurt and why and then keep your eyes open for signs / actions of remorse.
Thank you.
Jessie J.
Some content is courtesy of Cosmopolitan Magazine
Tuesday, April 24, 2012
Shaving Linked to Strokes and Sex In Men?
Listen, to this ridiculous statistic. According to sources at Cosmopolitan Magazine, a study that was performed back in 2003 shows that men who don't shave every day have less sex and are 70% more likely to suffer a stroke. Where do these scientists come up with this stuff and why are they spending our tax money on it?
I think that this is just a clever way for women to get their men to shave more often and for men to get their women to have sex with them everyday. They can use a line that goes something like; "Hey babe, I shaved today, now we have to have sex so I don't have a stroke". I'm surprised that they haven't come up with a study like this for women as a way for men to get us to shave our legs every day if we don't already.
Here's a clever idea. Maybe it just might be something that goes hand-in-hand with laziness. Now, I love my men with facial hair but if you're growing a birds nest in there, or are finding week-old particles of food then it is probably time to shave.
So, men, stop being lazy and shave every day for your woman. Bottom line: You'll get to have more SEX!
I think that this is just a clever way for women to get their men to shave more often and for men to get their women to have sex with them everyday. They can use a line that goes something like; "Hey babe, I shaved today, now we have to have sex so I don't have a stroke". I'm surprised that they haven't come up with a study like this for women as a way for men to get us to shave our legs every day if we don't already.
Here's a clever idea. Maybe it just might be something that goes hand-in-hand with laziness. Now, I love my men with facial hair but if you're growing a birds nest in there, or are finding week-old particles of food then it is probably time to shave.
So, men, stop being lazy and shave every day for your woman. Bottom line: You'll get to have more SEX!
Monday, April 23, 2012
QUIZ: Who is your Ideal Celebrity Match and What does it reveal about you?
If you chose mostly 1's.......
Your ideal celebrity Mr. Right is: Eminem
He is a rebel to the core. You are attracted to men with self-confidence and an I don't give a ****, type of attitude. The illusion that these men might, "settle down" or show you their "true feelings" is of great appeal. His mysterious and indifferent lifestyle is so intriguing that most women are willing to do anything for him. They crave to find out more and feel very special if they get "in". There is something sexy about wanting what you can't have and then actually getting it.
Every girl wants the bad boy, but be careful because most of the time, that's exactly what you'll get. They don't want to be figured out. There is usually a reason(s) why they are like this and it probably goes very deep to childhood. If they haven't changed by now, they probably never will. Unless, you can just have fun and not get attached to this type of guy, then you would be best to steer clear.
If you chose mostly 2's.......
Your ideal celebrity Mr. Right is: Richard Gere
He is a Father Figure. Perhaps, you like the appeal of an older man, but, most likely you are just attracted to their sophistication and intelligence. These men seem to have it all together. They have their own lives and are not needy. They are mature, cool and collected and make you feel safe and secure.
Your attraction to these men probably stem from qualities that your father has. It could also be a desire for a closeness with your dad that you may have lacked when you were growing up. However, on the other end of the spectrum, you may have had a very close relationship with your father and seek that in a partner. In any case, you are searching for stability in your life.
If you chose mostly 3's.......
Your ideal celebrity Mr. Right is: Ashton Kutcher
He is the eternal Frat-Boy. You are attracted to men who like to have a good time and don't take themselves too seriously. They give off a relaxing and playful vibe with their behavior which feels comfortable. They have a lot of friends and hang out with different groups of people. They love to joke around and are usually a bit immature.
These guys are perfect for you if you are not ready to settle down or take your life too seriously. However, when you are ready to take that next step, you will probably have outgrown and surpassed these lovers. They are good for fun but be careful because they are most likely putting the same moves on other women. They are usually players and are afraid to grow up.
If you chose mostly 4's.......
Your ideal celebrity Mr. Right is: Matthew McConaughey
He is a Smooth Operator. You are attracted to his confidence. He is suave and secure with his masculinity. He loves to lavish you with attention and shower you with gifts. You like the fact that he has manners and always seems to "get" you. He makes you feel special by always making the right moves and treats you like a lady.
Maybe you are seeking this kind of confidence or esteem from within yourself. There is something so secure and unassailable about these types of relationships. This allure fills the insecurities that you have inside of yourself. You love the recognition and enjoy the courtly treatment. You probably prefer an old-fashioned and more conservative romance. You like your men to be manly but sensitive and provide a protective role. The one thing to look out for with this type of man is that he can be very vain wrapped up in himself.
If you chose mostly 5's.......
Your ideal celebrity Mr. Right is: Will Smith
He is the Confidant. He is your go-to-guy. When you just can't talk to your girlfriends; he is the one you confide in. You feel like you can be yourself around him and tell him anything. You are attracted to his laid-back attitude and pretty boy looks. He is funny when he wants to make you laugh and serious when it's warranted. He provides you with advice and acknowledges you.
This is the guy who you root for and gets the girl at the end of the movie. You just need to recognize this and perhaps look at him as more than a friend. These relationships tend to last the longest because there was already substance before you became a couple. Even if the romance was to end, they are the ones that you truly stay friends with. If you do see him as a love interest, try not to reveal everything. He still wants to see you as the mysterious hot girl.
Your ideal celebrity Mr. Right is: Eminem
He is a rebel to the core. You are attracted to men with self-confidence and an I don't give a ****, type of attitude. The illusion that these men might, "settle down" or show you their "true feelings" is of great appeal. His mysterious and indifferent lifestyle is so intriguing that most women are willing to do anything for him. They crave to find out more and feel very special if they get "in". There is something sexy about wanting what you can't have and then actually getting it.
Every girl wants the bad boy, but be careful because most of the time, that's exactly what you'll get. They don't want to be figured out. There is usually a reason(s) why they are like this and it probably goes very deep to childhood. If they haven't changed by now, they probably never will. Unless, you can just have fun and not get attached to this type of guy, then you would be best to steer clear.
If you chose mostly 2's.......
Your ideal celebrity Mr. Right is: Richard Gere
He is a Father Figure. Perhaps, you like the appeal of an older man, but, most likely you are just attracted to their sophistication and intelligence. These men seem to have it all together. They have their own lives and are not needy. They are mature, cool and collected and make you feel safe and secure.
Your attraction to these men probably stem from qualities that your father has. It could also be a desire for a closeness with your dad that you may have lacked when you were growing up. However, on the other end of the spectrum, you may have had a very close relationship with your father and seek that in a partner. In any case, you are searching for stability in your life.
If you chose mostly 3's.......
Your ideal celebrity Mr. Right is: Ashton Kutcher
He is the eternal Frat-Boy. You are attracted to men who like to have a good time and don't take themselves too seriously. They give off a relaxing and playful vibe with their behavior which feels comfortable. They have a lot of friends and hang out with different groups of people. They love to joke around and are usually a bit immature.
These guys are perfect for you if you are not ready to settle down or take your life too seriously. However, when you are ready to take that next step, you will probably have outgrown and surpassed these lovers. They are good for fun but be careful because they are most likely putting the same moves on other women. They are usually players and are afraid to grow up.
If you chose mostly 4's.......
Your ideal celebrity Mr. Right is: Matthew McConaughey
He is a Smooth Operator. You are attracted to his confidence. He is suave and secure with his masculinity. He loves to lavish you with attention and shower you with gifts. You like the fact that he has manners and always seems to "get" you. He makes you feel special by always making the right moves and treats you like a lady.
Maybe you are seeking this kind of confidence or esteem from within yourself. There is something so secure and unassailable about these types of relationships. This allure fills the insecurities that you have inside of yourself. You love the recognition and enjoy the courtly treatment. You probably prefer an old-fashioned and more conservative romance. You like your men to be manly but sensitive and provide a protective role. The one thing to look out for with this type of man is that he can be very vain wrapped up in himself.
If you chose mostly 5's.......
Your ideal celebrity Mr. Right is: Will Smith
He is the Confidant. He is your go-to-guy. When you just can't talk to your girlfriends; he is the one you confide in. You feel like you can be yourself around him and tell him anything. You are attracted to his laid-back attitude and pretty boy looks. He is funny when he wants to make you laugh and serious when it's warranted. He provides you with advice and acknowledges you.
This is the guy who you root for and gets the girl at the end of the movie. You just need to recognize this and perhaps look at him as more than a friend. These relationships tend to last the longest because there was already substance before you became a couple. Even if the romance was to end, they are the ones that you truly stay friends with. If you do see him as a love interest, try not to reveal everything. He still wants to see you as the mysterious hot girl.
Wednesday, April 18, 2012
Why are women a puzzle to men?
Why are women a puzzle to men?
From the very beginning of time men have been scratching their heads (and other places) trying to figure out this un-answerable question. We see it clear as day, but I look over at my poor husband and he's still clueless after almost 7 years. We also see ourselves as simple creatures but we are far from that, we are complex. We are an enigma to men. To them, we are like a puzzle. They look for the prettiest one and get the adrenaline going as they get excited to open it up and start "playing" with it. Once the box is open, they start trying to "figure it out" and put the pieces together. This stage builds momentum and competition. They stay there for a while but only because they don't want to fail a challenge. So, they go along with things acting as if they are keen to everything. The puzzle is slowly revealing itself, piece-by-piece, but still has so many places to fill. The outline is now fully formed and the inside is left empty. Who cares though because by this point, it has become unappealing and seemingly too hard to finish and fill so they give up and move on to the next pretty box. However, the outcome isn't always so grim. Sometimes, they come back after they realize that the new "puzzle" is harder than the first one.
Again, I use a puzzle as a comparison to a woman. I also speak from experience. My husband and I are still in the trail stage after a year-long separation. We have been married 5 years and still trying to figure it all out.
Jessica J.
From the very beginning of time men have been scratching their heads (and other places) trying to figure out this un-answerable question. We see it clear as day, but I look over at my poor husband and he's still clueless after almost 7 years. We also see ourselves as simple creatures but we are far from that, we are complex. We are an enigma to men. To them, we are like a puzzle. They look for the prettiest one and get the adrenaline going as they get excited to open it up and start "playing" with it. Once the box is open, they start trying to "figure it out" and put the pieces together. This stage builds momentum and competition. They stay there for a while but only because they don't want to fail a challenge. So, they go along with things acting as if they are keen to everything. The puzzle is slowly revealing itself, piece-by-piece, but still has so many places to fill. The outline is now fully formed and the inside is left empty. Who cares though because by this point, it has become unappealing and seemingly too hard to finish and fill so they give up and move on to the next pretty box. However, the outcome isn't always so grim. Sometimes, they come back after they realize that the new "puzzle" is harder than the first one.
Again, I use a puzzle as a comparison to a woman. I also speak from experience. My husband and I are still in the trail stage after a year-long separation. We have been married 5 years and still trying to figure it all out.
Jessica J.
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